I’m Jane Travis, and I’ve been a counsellor/psychotherapist since 2005 at Reflections Counselling Lincoln, run the Lincoln Counsellors Network and also www.janetravis.com.
I started my counselling business out of necessity because there were and still are woefully few salaried counselling positions, but had 2 small businesses before that. My biggest challenge – confidence. I still find it a challenge to put myself out there!
In my counselling business, I see people with all kinds of issues but have a special interest in executive stress and issues around food. Within JaneTravis.com, I work with women that are people pleasers, looking at self-care and communication to help them find balance in their lives.
As a counsellor, I have seen hundreds of different women that run themselves ragged trying to be all things to all people, their own needs at the bottom of the pile while they are there for everyone else. And it’s a serious issue – they are tired, exhausted, overwhelmed which can lead to stress, anxiety and depression.
And I get it! As a recovering people pleaser myself, I know what it’s like. The need to be accepted, liked and loved is so strong we’ll exhaust ourselves rather than say no and risk disapproval, conflict and rejection.
I use all my training and experience as a counsellor to help them make real, fundamental changes and start to value themselves and protect themselves from the takers in this world.
I have been networking regularly for some years now, and I think it’s a valuable tool for business women. Running a business can be a lonely place so it’s great to form friendships with others that understand the unique issues we have. As a business tool, it helps you raise your profile locally, and give and receive referrals.
I’m a big fan of women-only networking. Much as I appreciate men, there is a totally different feel and buzz to women’s networking events.
I have always admired Anita Roddick. I used to be involved with The Body Shop Direct, which I loved and really admired her authenticity, business acumen, courage and ethical stance.
A book I would highly recommend is ‘Business Networking’ by Heather Townsend, a must read for anyone that wants to get the most from their networking.
There are a couple of regular places I use for coffee or lunch with networking friends, but Doddington Hall just outside Lincoln is a favorite. Beautiful home cooked and produced food in a fabulous rural setting.
I am extremely proud of my course ‘How to say no without feeling guilty or changing your mind‘. It’s written for people pleasers to tackle their fears and start to protect themselves from the takers and manipulators in this world. It’s effective, but lighthearted – one comment I received was ‘Jane makes a lot of sense, and her writing style is very easy to understand. I also like her sense of humor. What could be better, learning and laughing. Thank you Jane.’.
Women and men do business differently: we are different animals. As women, we are brought up to believe it’s our job to care for others which can make it harder to stand up for ourselves. Yes, a sweeping generalization I know but true nonetheless. The more we help each other, collaborating instead of competing, using our vast and diverse skills, the more we all rise.
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