Today I visited 1230 Kingshill who meet in the Observatory Restaurant in The Spitfire. It was a truly rewarding visit.
Over the past few weeks I have attended 1230 meetings at East Grinstead, Hastings, Sevenoaks, Beckenham and Chislehurst and today’s meeting really confirmed to me how much business is done now at 1230 meetings and between members. Today I bought a TooJays handbag .. and I wasn’t the only one! I spoke to Yvette who had a great fund-raising idea for Ovacome and I got a good tip from Karen of Utility Warehouse on how to reduce my bills even more – I am already a UW fan! I heard many testimonials from members about other members which I look forward to seeing posted on the website so that everyone can read them.
I am also keen to hear what 1230 Kingshill members decide to do to raise funds for Ovacome – Anna and Jane had a very good idea and I do hope it will go ahead.
Fantastic news too – at least two business women who were at the meeting are seriously considering becoming 1230 managers.
The more groups there are the greater the opportunities for all business women to take part in a 1230 group.
Of coure there is no excuse for any business women in the UK not to attend 1230V (V = virtual!) our monthly online telephone conference – details of next one are in the March section of the Meeting calendar.
Thank you to Beverley, Kate, Caroline, Clare, Jan, Anna and Jane for the inspiration you have given to me and to all the 1230 members and others who attend your meetings.
On the 1230v teleconference meeting last week, Suzanne Henwood www.HenwoodAssociates.co.uk gave a superb ten minute introduction to the theory behind the controversial book and DVD, ‘The Secret’. Among the questions raised were: “Can we really decide what we want from life and then just sit back and expect it to happen?” “If we are responsible for everything that happens in our lives, why do we end up with things we definely DON’T want – like illness and bereavement?” Suzanne, ably abetted by Beverly Hamilton, gave some fascinating explanations on the thought processes and techniques that can be used to harness the power of our minds.
The one that resonated with me the most was the idea that, although we can’t control the things that life throws at us, we can control the way we choose to react to them. When we are struggling with bad stuff we can either have bad feelings or we can choose to have decent feelings. Neither will change what happened but having decent feelings could bring about a different outcome.(This is very different to the hackneyed ‘positive thinking’ we’ve all been told to practise.)
If you would like to suggest a subject for a future ‘v’ meeting or would like to do a ten minute talk to introduce a topic please get in touch. ‘v’ meetings are on the second Monday from 12.30 – 1.30.
Looking forward to hearing from you,
1230 Purley meetings have now merged with 1230 Croydon and will meet on the 1st Tuesday of the month at Kelong Selsdon Rd, South Croydon. (Nr the Swan & Sugar loaf) The Kelong offers supurb Malaysian and Singaporean food. So join Val and Myself (Charlotte) for a drink, a main meal and a coffee on Tues 4th March at The Kelong.
Last Friday was an exhausting but by equal measure, exciting day. I had the pleasure of interviewing 6 applicants for the roles of 1230 Managers. Two I’d met previously Fiona Syrett who is starting a group in Woking and Rhian Wheeler who is starting a group in East Dulwich with Lola Fayemi. Penny Walters is going to continue running the Bristol group, Meera Winder will take-over Kingston and Teresa Leong will be running Wimbledon.
What great business women they all are, and how well prepared they’d come for the day. Their 2 minute talks on “The Value of Networking” needs to be packaged. Each was enthusiastic, totally understanding the effort required in building those business relationships.
I’m very much looking forward to working with them all. A BIG Welcome Girls!
Reflections from the day’s feedback:-
“Hard to pick out anything as most useful because I found the whole session extremely valuable”.
I’ve just attended a 1230 meeting from the comfort of my own home, and on a day like today that’s a real bonus! Joining is simple – you just have to dial a number – and it costs very little. Penny talked us through all the features of the new 1230 website and showed us how easy it is to use it to promote our own businesses. It’s given me lots to talk about at my first 1230 Woking meeting next week – I will definitely be promoting the website as terrific ‘added value’ to 1230 membership!
With my kids off on holiday it’s been a fine line between being available to chat, play Monopoly, go shopping, beat them at bowling and working.
It’s the same for most working parents but it made me think about how I use my time.
With mounting to-do lists, big projects with short delivery dates, consuming workloads, growing obligations and festering unfinished tasks, it’s no wonder in this what-have-you-done-for-me-today world we often feel time deprived.
I am very passionate and enthusiastic about my work and because I love it so much it doesn’t feel like work but there is also a down side to that in that I don’t know when to stop, close the door and switch off and I also expect everyone to feel the same about my work – which is just plain barmy of me really.
Work-life flows into home-life, and balance becomes imbalance, and goals and dreams get relegated to “maybe another day” shelf.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In a recent “Winning at Working” reader survey, the most common work problem was related to time. Overwhelmed. Overworked. Overstressed. Too much to do and too little time to do it. But here’s the reality. No matter how much we do, we will never get everything done. There isn’t enough time for all that needs doing, all we want to do or we’d like to do or we should do. There never will be, even with the most sophisticated productivity, organisational and time-management approaches. Of course, they’re helpful, but thinking the chaos and stress in life is caused by not having enough time is a big mistake.
You see, the problem is not a time problem. We all have the same amount. It’s a choice problem. The choices you make determine whether you’re running your life, or your life is running you. And you do have choices. Naturally there may be consequences to saying no, establishing boundaries or reordering priorities but there are also consequences if you don’t.
All tasks are not equal. All commitments are not equal. All responsibilities are not equal. All clients are not equal. All people of personal importance to your life are not equal. Yet many of us operate as if they were. You can do fifty things today and get little, if any, result for having done them. Or you can do one or two that bring a big return, be it emotional, financial, physical or psychological. People who are winning at working know the difference and operate accordingly.
They see time as life’s currency and how it’s used as a choice. Choices shape your results and your life. You get the same twenty-four hours each day as your co-worker sitting next to you. But use differs. Practice the piano eight hours a day and you’ll be better than people who don’t. Practice and hone your workplace talents and the same applies. Or spend time getting ready to work, stopping to chat, surfing the web, fiddling with your emails and you’ll complete the day having traded your time for minimal results.
How you spend your time puts value on what you’re spending it on. Many people never have “time” to exercise consistently until a health issue causes them to re-prioritize their choices. Funny how they manage to find the hours when they have to isn’t it?
Choosing to eliminate an hour of television a day could create 365 “found” hours a year. That’s nine weeks! People who are winning at working know this secret: because there is always time for what matters to them. So, they allocate their time carefully, understanding their life as a reflection of their choices. They make time for the people they love, the passions they have and work that uses their uniqueness.
They focus on the results, goals, and life-dreams they desire, rather than accepting what comes their way. They do, while others talk of doing. They plan their day, while others let their day plan them. They motivate themselves, while others wait for someone or something to motivate them. For people who are winning at working, it’s not about the time they have; it’s about the choices they make in how to use it.
So what could you do differently today to take control of your time?
Sue Atkins is a Parent Coach and Author of “Raising Happy Children for Dummies” one in the famous black and yellow series. She has written many books on self esteem, toddlers and teenagers and has a collection of Confident Parent CD’s available from her website. To find out more about her work and to receive her free monthly newsletter packed full of practical tips and helpful advice for bringing up happy, confident, well-balance children go to => http:/www.positive-parents.com
The days of not talking to strangers and not accepting sweets from them have long gone, as your child can make friends with people from around the global community in an instant. But how do you know who they are talking to and how do you monitor and keep a watchful eye on their activity? How do you keep them safe from paedophiles and away from inappropriate situations that can intimidate, terrify and overwhelm them?
Internet Dos and Don’ts
The internet is a valuable, exciting resource for children and adults alike but there are potential dangers associated with its use, especially for children.
You may not have grown up with instant chatrooms and social networking forums but that’s not a good enough excuse to bury your head in the sand and let your children have free reign on the Internet without some proper supervision – it can be a dangerous place to play.
But don’t panic – there are a number of simple measures you can follow to help ensure your child’s safety online.
Dos – for parents
Do: Talk to your child/children about how they use the internet and their favourite sites. Encourage them to show you how they access the net and to talk to you about any concerns they may have regarding online chatting. Show an interest rather than point an accusatory finger of distrust at them. Your child will feel reassured and safe if you show a balance of respecting their way of communicating but keeping a watchful eye on what’s happening.
Do: Keep the computer in a public place in your home – if a predator sees a bustling living room or kitchen in the background on the webcam rather than just a quiet child’s bedroom, he will probably be less likely to embark on attempting to groom your child.
Do: Keep up to date with the new technology. Ask your children to teach you new things – they’ll enjoy spending time with you and you’ll enjoy being with them too but also know that you are keeping them safe in the process. Helpful sources of information include;
NCH: click on the section marked internet safety
Do: Remind your children that any people they only know through the internet (and not in the real world) may not be who they say they are.
Do: Check the privacy settings covering their profiles on-line.
Do: Make it clear to them that you will occasionally check what sites they are using and will also sometimes ask questions to make sure they know the person they’re messaging.
Do: Remind your children that anything they post is likely to be visible to the world.
Don’ts – for children
Don’t: post any personal information (such as your email address or mobile number) on your profile/s.
Don’t: post anything online you wouldn’t want the world to see.
Don’t: continue online conversations that make you feel uncomfortable or suspicious about whom it is you are talking to. Report these to the Child Protection Exploitation and Online Protection (CEOP) website via their ‘report abuse’ facility and go and talk to your parents or another adult you trust to help you.
CEOP website http://www.ceop.gov.uk/
Don’t: agree to meet anyone you only know via the internet.
Don’t: open any attachments or links if you don’t know (in the real world) the person who has sent them.
Don’t: use your real name in chat rooms – pick a nickname just to use online.
Don’t: assume that the people you are chatting to online are really who they claim to be.
Don’t: keep any anxieties or worries or little niggles to yourself about approaches to you or conversations you’ve had online. Talk to your parents and/or an adult you trust. If not, you can call Childline on 0800 1111.
Don’t: accept strangers who contact your online profile as friends say NO or just ignore them. Don’t be tempted to say YES.
Don’t: agree if someone suggests keeping your chats a secret – tell your parents or a trusted adult.
Keeping your child safe in this new arena needn’t be frightening but you owe it to them to keep up with the fast pace of change and keep them protected.
Sue Atkins is a Parent Coach and Author of “Raising Happy Children for Dummies” one in the famous black and yellow series. To find out more about her work and to receive her free monthly newsletter packed full of practical tips and helpful advice for bringing up happy, confident, well-balance children go http:/www.positive-parents.com
Preschoolers are curious little people who love to explore but keeping them busy and engaged during the day can be quite a challenge. Here are some simple, fun and educational ideas to make life with them creative and enjoyable.
• Blow Bubbles
Always keep a tub of bubble solution handy in the kitchen as a wonderful solution to your little ones boredom. You can buy them very cheaply from the £ shops and they often come with lots of different size and shaped pipes to make unusual bubbles which your little one will love popping or catching or blowing. Or you can make your own bubble solution from washing up liquid to save yourself some money. Let your child play in the sink with some bubbles too and let them have fun looking at the rainbows.
• Make a Necklace
Making necklaces and bracelets is a brilliant way to have fun but it is also a great way to develop your little ones dexterity. You can buy large beads or buttons from the ELC which they can thread onto coloured threads or wool or I remember letting my kids just play with my spare button box. But remember to tape the end to make it easy to thread and at the other end to stop all the beads from falling off! Also make sure they are old enough not to put the beads in their mouth.
• The Magic Paint Brush
I remember my own kids playing outside with a bucket of water and some paintbrushes and having enormous fun just making pictures with water that dried up easily with no mess. They can also paint in the bath too!
• Make a Person
Draw round your child onto a large sheet of paper and let them colour in and draw their own clothes, hair and face. Glue on some wool for hair and use old fabric for their clothes and use real buttons or even real shoelaces on their shoes or trainers.
Keep a supply of things like toilet paper tubes, old boxes, buttons, feathers, sequins and glitter around for creating – particularly on wet days. Just keep an eye on your child when they are creating and working with small parts as you don’t want to end up in A & E if they’ve popped something up their nose!
Also try playing with potatoes as they are wonderful for artistic activities. You can stick all kinds of things in a potato like feathers, twigs or straws and you can cut out shapes and paint with them.
• Finger Paint
Kids LOVE finger painting but have you thought of doing it with shaving cream or spurty cream on the kitchen table or in the bath? Or have you ever filled a tray with sand, salt or flour and let them draw pictures or trace letters in it?
• Scissor Fun
Preschoolers love to cut and stick. So get out all your (and their) old magazines, Christmas or birthday cards and help them cut and stick the pictures onto a collage. Just remember to buy plastic safety scissors designed just for young children’s fingers to avoid any injuries.
• Read a Book
Read to your little one everyday and sing nursery rhymes. Children love being read to and it develops their language and vocabulary skills too. Point to words so they begin to get the idea that we read from left to right across the page. It’s a good idea to make sure you have baskets of books always around at their level so they can dip in and out of a book when they feel like it.
• Paint wax resist eggs from hard boiled eggs
Get some hard boiled eggs, some wax crayons and some food colouring and draw pictures or designs onto the eggs. Then dip the eggs in the dye and the dye won’t soak through the crayon so your child will love discovering their patterns.
• Pots and Pans
Give your kids some clean, empty pots and pans and some wooden spoons and let them play. They will spend hours having fun with this very simple and old fashioned idea.
• Water Play
Kids love water so why not let them play with it. Fill the sink or bowl with warm water and let them “wash” saucepan lids, toys and cutlery (not knives!) It’s a good idea to put a towel under their chair at the sink to soak up all the drips and it also stops them from slipping.
You can also check out easy to do craft ideas for toddlers at
Sue Atkins is a former Deputy Head with 22 years teaching experience and is now a Parent Coach. She has written many books on self esteem, toddlers and teenagers and has a collection of Confident Parent CD’s available from her website. She is also the author of “Raising Happy Children for Dummies” one in the famous black and yellow series published worldwide and available from all good bookshops. For more information go to => http://www.positive-parents.com
Not long now until the next meeting of 1230TWC Woking and this month we have a special offer for all members! All you have to do is bring a guest who isn’t a member and hasn’t visited before & YOU will qualify for a FREE MEETING!
Guests will pay normal price for non-members)
Today I met an absolutley lovely man. He’s from Romania and has been over here for 18 months. His wife has a baby due at the end of April and I helped make sure that if he dies, his wife and child will be well provided for financially. That’s job satisfaction!